Before Meeting the Funeral Director
We encourage you to read this section with your family so that
each of you may share your thoughts and ideas for the funeral. By
inviting everyone, including children, to help plan or take part in
the service, you show them that their feelings matter.
us to request a complimentary copy of our guide,
"Burstows Complete Funeral Care".
Or read this book online or download a PDF copy.
This is a time to be understanding of each other's needs. You
are each experiencing grief and loss in your own way-be gentle with
each other. Accept each other's feelings and use this opportunity
to share them.
You may face the challenge of balancing your loved one's dying
wishes with your own needs as mourners. Know that it is okay to put
the needs of your family first. Seek to fulfil the essence of your
loved one's wishes, rather than the specific details.
Allow yourself time
You may feel that you need to put the funeral behind you as
quickly as possible. If so, we encourage you to rethink that
approach. Sometimes, families see the funeral as a painful
experience and simply want it to be over. It helps to understand
that the loss of our loved one has caused our pain; the funeral can
and should be the instigator of our healing. In deciding on a day
and time for the ceremony, be sure you have allowed enough time to
consider and carry out all your preferred options.
Considerations that may require additional
- Relatives needing to travel
- Opportunities to view your loved one
- Preparing service sheets
- Preparing memory displays
- Compiling a photo story
- Preparing the eulogy
Information required by law
When a death occurs, there is a legal obligation to register the
death with the Registrar of Births, Deaths and Marriages in that
state. The Registrar asks for information as part of the process of
registering the death.
- Information to assemble before meeting to discuss
- Date of birth and birthplace of the deceased
- Marriage details-where, when and to whom
- Children(s) names and ages
- Parents' full name and occupations