A Meaningful Funeral Service
Your Personal Touch
You can create a funeral that reflects the unique and special
qualities of your loved one. The secret is to add personal touches.
Here are some suggestions.
- Add your personal touch to the funeral notice in the paper. You
may wish to mention your loved one's most memorable qualities or
include a few lines from a meaningful poem.
- Provide a memory book for guests to sign at the gathering. This
is a lovely way for mourners to share their memories and feelings.
It will become a cherished memento of your loved one.
- Place your loved one's favourite things close by. These will
have special meaning to all who share your loss.
- Light a candle. The flame of a candle represents the spirit.
For some, it also represents life's continuation beyond death.
- Give guests an order of service, including the eulogy.
Personalise it with special memories, photos or lines from a
- Project photo images of the person's life during the
- Select flowers that were meaningful to the person who died.
Perhaps you can think of something more appropriate than flowers to
be displayed on the coffin or casket.
- Don't be afraid to use humour, where appropriate. Remember, the
eulogy is a celebration of the life of your loved one.
- Create a memory display at the viewing, ceremony or gathering.
Encourage family and friends to contribute their favourite photos.
This is a wonderful opportunity to share special memories.
- Fill the room with your loved one's favourite music - music
that is special to the whole family. You may choose to use
pre-recorded music or bring in musicians to honour your loved
- Include poetry or scripture that may have special significance
for you or the person who has died.
- Involve organisations that the person was involved in, for
example, the RSL, Rotary or Masonic Lodge. Some of these
organisations have their own short ceremony that can be included,
or you may invite them to form a guard of honour or help as
- Choose a meaningful funeral cortege or procession. This is the
procession from the service venue to the cemetery or crematorium.
The procession is a symbol of public honouring of the death. It is
usually led by the hearse containing the coffin or casket. You may
ask that the procession pass a significant place, for example, the
family home or place of business.
- Escort the cortege with significant vehicle(s).
- Place a flower or cast petals into the grave at the completion
of the committal.
- Release balloons, doves or butterflies at the graveside.